Christian Dating & Self-Control

I have wanted to write on this topic for a while now.  I am currently in a serious dating relationship with an amazing man. His name is Deon. I met him back in May of 2011.  For the first time in my life, we decided as a couple to do things Gods way structuring our relationship around biblical principles and honoring Christ. It has been such a blessing but not without a price. I wanted to encourage all those women out there that are in a Christian dating relationship or desire to be in one on a few things I learned (and is still learning).

Christian dating is not for the weak.  Both people need to make a conscious decision to do it Gods way. I remember being in relationships that always started great but due to the fact that I ignored the voice of God and that person not being for me, it always ended often times horribly.  The type of person I am, I don’t bounce back from broken relationships very quickly so I soon learned that I had to be careful with who I allowed to have my heart. In Christian dating, I’ve learned that you give your heart without sacrificing your world.  To some, giving their heart means giving them their all. That is not healthy, as a person will not be able to fulfill your every desire and truly fill you. Only God is able to fill you completely.  Don’t get me wrong, Deon and I went through the “infatuation” stage.  We are still flying high, but in a more realistic fashion.  We realize that God is our source and we honor Him first and in all we do. I am learning so much about relationship and doing it Gods way. It truly is a blessing to know that you are honoring God. I been on both sides and Gods side is MUCH better. 

This has not been easy.  It has taken a LOT of self-control and dying to our flesh.  Naturally when you love someone you want to be intimate, but both of us recognize how important God is in our lives. We also realize that before we had each other, God was our source of strength. Now that we are together, before marriage, HE MUST remain our strength. Now more than ever. It is VERY hard but it requires self-control.

To sum this all up.....its so worth it to wait on God for the right person. When they come, honor God for blessing you by doing this His way and enjoy the peace that comes with patience.