On October 17, 2012 I wrote a blog post called "Bold & Fierce Is Getting Married" In this post I talked about my concern with women going to conferences and getting empowered without the husband (head of the household) being empowered as well. I spoke about the family as a unit being empowered instead of a woman running ahead or feeling held back because of her dreams. I can see the conversation now of all the revelation, excitement, vision and plans a woman may have coming home from a conference only to be met with a family that is not as excited or needs more information on how to what it is she is talking about. The frustration she feels kills the initial joy and excitement as she finds herself praying for direction.
Bishop T.D. Jakes and The Potters House announced MegaFest this year that will be bringing all 3 conferences, Woman Thou Art Loosed, ManPower, MegaKidz & MegaYouth conference together for one big event! Talk about empowering the FAMILY as a unit. I LOVE THIS! I am sure this is not the only conference like this but I have been so blessed by this ministry and I know it's good ground.
This is a MAJOR step forward for the family to be empowered in Christ together as one unit. I LOVE IT! So excited about it. Go to: MEGAFEST 2013 DALLAS, TEXAS to learn more!
Tuesday, May 28, 2013
Thursday, May 23, 2013
Hey lovelies!! I have truly missed blogging. I do believe God has given me a passion to write and encourage others through my writing/blogging.
So, okay, if you follow me on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram you know that I recently got married (May 4th) whoop whoop! The day was amazing, I was surrounded by amazing people and I feel so blessed to marry the man of my dreams! His prayers, his patience, his love and so many other things fit me so well! I’m just speechless. We are beyond excited about our journey. I learned so much during the engagement season of which I will share in my next book!! I wanted to release it in September but the Husband says 2014, so I’m in AGREEMENT. (we will talk about that word…lol) Those test and trials that I went through truly birthed out of me MORE faith in Christ and trusting in Him in all things on a whole different level. I learned a lot about myself and how you must transition properly into marriage. There is a way that seems right unto a man, but the end thereof is destruction (Proverbs 14:12) That’s the base scripture to my next book because some believe that are doing things right, but there are some key things that will set you up for success in your marriage. One of the things that I do not understand, is the amount of time that we spend in a four year college or even in education since we are born BUT yet, none of what we are taught is about how to have a successful marriage. Another thing, we are not taught is what to look for in a good husband and how to transition to marriage. Yet we make one of the BIGGEST decisions of our lives without any Godly biblical advice.
As a disclaimer: Not everyone will take the same path, yet there are some key principles that are founded in wisdom that I truly believe God has given us to help us be successful in the dating and engagement season. That’s what I want to share with you.
I LOVE BEING MARRIED! Yea, I know I am only technically 19 days in, but things are wonderful on this side! So many benefits of marrying a Godly man that is SOLD OUT for Christ. I’ve already realized that we must keep this momentum through making sure our priorities are straight. We are still in MAJOR transition as we bring two worlds into one and find our rhythm but it’s been FUN!
The blog today is about sowing and reaping. I’ve been reading a lot on this and I want to encourage my readers to sow good seeds. Good seeds are seeds of prayer, reading Gods word, encouraging someone that may need uplifting, or even simply speaking life/faith when you feel like complaining.
The bible says that you will reap what you sow. Are you sowing any good seeds or are all of the seeds you sow full of confusion, negativity, and defeat? What you are reaping today is DUE in fact to the seeds you have sown in the past. In 2010, I made up in my mind that I would sow big seeds for Christ. Not only financially, but in prayer, reading his word, in faith, in how I speak and when I tell you my life has change more in the last 3 years than EVER before.
I truly believe that it is directly connected to the seeds I have sown. Read 2 Corinthians 9:6-8 (actually go ahead and finish the chapter; its powerful) I like to read it in the NLT version, but it talks about those that sow sparingly shall reap sparingly. That means there is no need to be jealous of one another, the things a person is reaping in their life is a direct result of the seeds they are sowing. On the other side, the lack of that a person is experiencing MAY be due to the lack of seeds they are not sowing. Bottom line…sow good seeds. Sow seeds of faith in Christ, trust in God. Sow financial seeds into good ground (ministry, charity, organization, etc.) Sow seeds of prayer and reading Gods words and reap the direction and guidance from the creator of this world.
If you do…you will reap what you sow.
Bold & Fierce took a quick break while I transitioned to marriage, but the good news is I am revamping the website and coming out with something you will LOVE!! Bold & Fierce is a women’s organization about overcoming barriers in pursuit of your purpose. It’s about learning how to be a God-fearing woman that refusing to give up just because a trial and tribulation was presented. My life starting from when I was a child was ANYTHING but easy. I went through a lot internally. Externally you would looked at me and thought everything was fine. (Actually most people did) Needless to say, a war was raging in my frail spirit and I truly hit rock bottom early in life. That is where God taught me the principles of pressing beyond and refusing to give up.
We have some really exciting things planned and I can’t WAIT to share what God has given me to share with you all! Until next time lovelies!!
Bridgette Reed!!! (yay!!)
Tuesday, February 26, 2013
Everyday until the day of my wedding I am committing to doing some type of work-out. Actually, I have already started (1.5 weeks) and we have 66 days to go as of today....but anyhow...here is what my commitment is to obtain that Bridal Body...at the 60 day mark (March 4th). I work out at a gym like 5 minutes from my house. It allows me to run home after work, grab my stuff and head into the gym. If I sit down at home, I will not go...lol! I don't bring my gym bag with me in the morning because this chic right here is NOT a morning person, so I'm usually out the door in a HOT flash in the morning. Also, I NEED to have fun while working out or I get bored...so Zumba along with Yoga and Spin class is all I need to stay motivated...let's go!
BTW, I am not looking to lose that much weight (the fiance loves me curves ;-)) I'm just looking to tone so I'm not wobbling on the beach in Cancun (honeymoon)...not cute! lol! Embrace your curves ladies just keep it under control. I've already lost 2.5 pounds in 10 days doing this plan so I'm right on track to meet my goal of 10-15 pounds but more TONED that weight loss.
Join in if you like....or be motivated to start your own plan! Either way...a healthy life is an happy life. We all have our reasons for being healthy for me, I realize that I need to be healthy not just for my own sake, but for my family-to-be. I need to be around to love on my husband, raise my kids, make memories and live life to the fullest. This is ONLY possible if I am in a healthy state. I've seen what it feels like to NOT be healthy or to feel unhealthy...low energy, low productivity, low motivation...blah, blah, blah. Who has time for DAT?! lol #SweetBrown
Without further delay....here's my plan:
March 4: Zumba and weight lifts (1.5 hours)
March 5: Zumba or Spin (1 hour)
March 6: 40 leg lunges (did I spell that right?)
March 7: Zumba and weight lifts (1.5 hours)
March 8: Zumba or Spin (1 hour)
March 9: Rock-climbing with the boo
March 10: 100 Sit-ups challenge with the boo
March 11: Zumba
March 12: Zumba and weight lifts (1.5 hours)
March 13: Zumba or Spin (1 hour)
March 14: 60 leg lunges
March 15: Zumba and weight lifts (1.5 hours)
March 16: 150 sit-up challenge
March 17: 150 sit-up challenge
March 18: Zumba and weight lifts (1.5 hours)
March 19: Zumba or Spin (1 hour)
March 20: 80 leg lunges
March 21: Zumba and weight lifts (1.5 hours)
March 22: Zumba or Spin (1 hour)
March 23: 160 sit-up challenge
March 24: 160 sit-up challenge
March 25: Zumba and weight lifts (1.5 hours)
March 26: Zumba or Spin (1 hour)
March 27: 85 leg lunges
March 28: 160 sit up challenge (Michigan Bridal Shower Week)
March 29: 85 leg lunges (Michigan Bridal Shower Week)
March 30: 85 leg lunges (Michigan Bridal Shower Week)
March 31: 85 leg lunges (Michigan Bridal Shower Week)
April 1: Zumba and weight lifts (1.5 hours)
April 2: Zumba or Spin (1 hour)
April 3: 85 leg lunges
April 4: Zumba or Spin (1 hour)
April 5: Zumba or Spin (1 hour)
April 6: work-out with the boo (1 hour)
at this point I'm going to slow down quite a bit because my last bridal fitting is this week and I don't need to lose/gain anymore....just maintain....for the next month. Let's go!
April 7: 100 sit ups
April 8: Zumba 1 hour
April 9: Healthy Dinner, no exercise
April 10: Healthy Dinner, no exercise
April 11: Zumba
April 12: Yoga
April 13: Healthy Dinner, no exericise
April 14: 100 sit-ups
April 15: Zumba
April 16: Zumba
April 17: Healthy Dinner
April 18: Yoga
April 19: Healthy Dinner
April 20: Healthy Dinner
April 21: 100 sit-ups
April 22: Zumba
April 23: Yoga
April 24: Healthy Dinner
April 25: Zumba
April 26: Zumba (1 week to go!)
April 27: Healthy Dinner
April 28: 100 sit-ups
April 29: 100 sit-ups
April 30: Zumba
May 1: Healthy Dinner
May 2: Yoga
May 3: Healthy Dinner
May 4: THE BIG DAY!!!
Btw, I will continue the plan after I get settled in and figure out my new schedule as a newly wed!! Whoo!!! #Excited
Tuesday, February 5, 2013
|Love shining bright!|
I will put down my singleness for unselfish life of a married woman. Not only has it been a transition externally, but internally I have felt the need to change how I think and view the world.
I will lay down the name I was born with, the only identity I knew, and take on the name of my husband. My name will no longer be Bridgette Murphy, but Bridgette Reed. Not only is this a new name but a new destiny....the only way I could have made this decision is if it is God approved, signed, sealed and delivered. The wait was truly worth it.
The essence of my independence will realize that it is now....under submission to another and the leading, guidance both naturally and spiritually for me and our future family.
I will come into the blessing that God promised me 8 years ago. All the brokenness, failures and flaws led me to this point. All things have worked together for my good...
I will have come through a bitter sweet season of engagement. While it has been such an exciting experience it has come with a price. Our marriage counselor said it best when he said, "Hell had a meeting when you all announced your engagement. The devil doesn't like marriage." This season has tested me on every corner, yet I press on staying focused on what's important; the love that God arranged; our arranged marriage.
I will begin a new journey that will have it's share of test, trials, excitement, happiness and love....but I know why now I had to go through so much in my singleness. You see God was teaching me who to lean and depend on Him no matter what was happening. I can only tell you the nights I cried, the days I wanted to give up, and the many failures I've had along the way. But God in his unfailing love never left...he kept on picking me, dusting me off and loving me back to life. Now I take that relationship I developed with Him and I walk into this new season; equipped, processed and ready to learn and grow knowing some days will be great and others tough; but as long as we remained committed to the process and to never give up....we will win.
The day will come and it will go....a beautiful day that I have planned over 10 months for.....but honestly, it's the marriage that I'm looking for to....the ceremony will last one hour and the reception 4 hours. We will make memories of a lifetime, enjoy ourselves and the beginning our our life and love journey.....and then the real story begins.
God willing.....I will pray a prayer of thanks for family, friends and true love....nothing else in life means more to me. Although I am an extrovert with introverted ways....I love through words and touch....that's my love language and I pray I am able to express that to everyone that attends.
I will have a permanent roommate; he better not leave the top off the toothpaste! Can't stand that! (random thought, sorry......lol!)
Back to my seriousness....
I will take the journey that so many say is so hard yet so worth it...with the right person.
Murphy will become Reed. Excited! Night lovelies!!
- Bride to be ....Bridgette :-))
- Bride to be ....Bridgette :-))
Thursday, December 27, 2012
So you set out to accomplish all of your hearts desires. Ready......Set.....
Then......if you have been listening closely, you hear that still small voice says, "Wait, not yet."
What?! I have everything ready to go God, its MY time and MY season. But he whispers again, "Wait, it's not time." Unlike the many times before that you ran before God and fell flat on your face, you look at the scar and remember how painful it was to get back up again. This time....you obey. "Okay God....I'll wait on you."
This blog is to encourage you wait on the Lord no matter what everyone else is doing and what people may think of you. I know you feel anxiety as you desire to press forward, been there, done that and wrote a blog post on it! (Worried About The Future?) Read it and recognize the power in the pause. What I have found is that most of us, such as myself and many others are a work in progress. We are all trying to draw closer to Him each and everyday. He has taught me a fundamental lesson in my 28 years of life......there is power in the pause.
Now listen, I use to be a runner! What do I mean, I use to get a idea and run 150 mph down the road in my mind in pursuit of that idea. One day, I had another idea and another idea and so many ideas I couldn't help myself. LOL! I was a mess...I have to laugh thinking about it, because truly not waiting on God is a sign of being spiritually immature. Having to run after every idea that pops into your head is a sign of being young and too ambitious. That was me. Then one day, I came across this scripture.....
"Don't be selfish; don't try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don't look out only for your own interest, but take an interest in others, too! You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had." Philippians 3:3 NLT
So, as I paused and put down my bags. I realized God was equipping me with one of the most important attributes of being a Christian outside of love, faith and hope. He was giving me patience. He was building in my character with endurance for the road ahead and WISDOM. Almost everyday, I pray for increased wisdom. Partly because God promises to give it liberally, but also because I know wisdom keeps you from wasting time and making mistakes that takes years to fix. Patience is the root of wisdom. He was also showing me that it's not the applause of man, but the smile of God that you want. For every person that you are impressed with, there is someone better! There will always be someone doing something....stop comparing. Rest in Him and His plans he has for you! I see it so much all over. We need to rest in patience and listen to heartbeat of God. In all of our busyness, we need to stop and hear His desires and not our own. Pause.....
"So do not throw away this confident trust in the Lord. Remember the great reward it brings you. Patient endurance is what you need now, so that you will continue to do God's will. Then you will receive all that he has promised." Hebrews 10: 35-36 NLT
Did you know you can be so sick spiritually that it manifest into a physically sickness. Wrote about it here: (Annual Check-Up) After the Lord heals you, delivers your mind and gives you peace in contentment....remember the power of the pause. Just because he gave it to you now, doesn't mean now is the right timing. Timing means so much. There is a window of opportunity and some miss it because they wait too long and others miss it because they jump too soon.
Next time you get a vision, idea, or dream/desire.....take a second to listen. You just might hear God say, "Wait....there's power in this pause." Then when he says "Now....Go." He will have paved a path for you that is beyond your dreams/desires and imagination. He would have instilled in you humility, wisdom, endurance, patience and He can trust you with greater. Very famous scripture comes to mind, but rather than just quote it....meditate on it when you get your next idea:
"For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. In those days when you pray, I will listen. If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me." Jeremiah 29: 11-13 NLT
Let's go higher! Before you go....know that there is "Power, in the Pause." Love ya!!!
Tuesday, December 18, 2012
4.5 months to go until we tie the knot. As I bask in my excitement, I wanted to share a few great and not so great random thoughts that go through my mind during this season (any other engaged folk think these things..)
Why does it seem all hell break lose after announcing your engagement? Oh, that's right, the adversary doesn't like marriage or two people coming together to agree on anything. He fights agreement and the constitution of marriage. Got it!
Who is regulating the pricing structure in the wedding industry? No one...oh okay, didn't think so....as soon as you mention wedding seems like the price goes through the roof.
Our marriage counselor said it best, two people coming together in marriage is like the cold coming down from the north and the hot coming up from the south....when they merge what do you get....yep! ;-))) It's weird because it's the only storm I would willingly endure
I need my friends and family more than ever before in this season. I thought, I would be cool, but actually I need them more.
Life begins when you start living for someone other than yourself....it's true.
I subscribed to Good Housekeeping Magazine. The only desire I have right now is to organize my future household....a visit to The Container Store would be nice.
There is nothing more important to me than to have my family grounded in Gods word, to be humble servants and to have confidence as they walk in purpose and passion.
I can't imagine how a person feels after losing a spouse or child. My heart goes out to anyone that has lost someone so close to them. I just can't conceive the pain to bear.
On a lighter note, you really see some interesting personalities as you approach the wedding day.
Families are funny. (Nuff said!)
Davida Clark is my God-sister and her love is crazy! She is a beautiful woman with a beautiful spirit. Oh, and I'm a bit bias cause she MY maid of honor!
There are no rules to ceremony and reception....DO YOU!
I can't wait to see all my family and friends...definitely the ones far away! I miss you all sooo much!
I wish my niece was older...she would be the cutest flower girl!
Will my three year old nephew sprint down the middle aisle as he runs to his dad? Hmm...get that on video.
Just my thoughts......nothing important....chow!!!
Saturday, December 15, 2012
WOW! It’s been a long time since I wrote on this blog. You all have been in my spirit and I have been praying for each of you to prosper. I see so many people stepping out into purpose and passion and it is absolutely amazing! I love seeing this and I encourage everyone to go higher, take the limits off and press forward overcoming EVERY barrier.
Today, I wanted to encourage those that feel a tug-of-war in their spirits. It’s like a feeling of pulling or anxiety. This so prevalent at the end of one year and at the beginning of a another year. Rest in the peace that God has ordered your every step. Walk by faith and not by sight. Pray and ask God every day, “Lord, lead and guide my every step, not for my will but for Your Will”. Allow Him to lead you even if that means doing something that may not seem “prestigious”. God takes us through seasons in our lives to help us to process and be refined that we may come forth as pure gold.
Don’t forfeit the process because of your restlessness. Trust Him in every season. Now I know this is not always easy, but His words promises that “His strength is made perfect in our weakness.” Personally, I am a season of transition as I go from single hood to marriage and as I am combining my life with my hubby to be, I am having to put a lot of things on hold. Bold & Fierce is not pumping like it used to be, because that was a vision God gave me in my singleness. He is showing how it will prosper in my marriage but I must come together with Deon before I can move forward. It’s not just about me anymore. At first this brought on a lot of wrestling in my spirit. So much was happening and I was just getting the foundation off the ground. But God knows what he is doing and it took a few weeks but eventually, I relaxed as Deon shared with me the vision for us which included Bold & Fierce and a few other things.
This taught me that the person God has for you will not silence your purpose, he will cultivate it. It taught me that transitions happen but they don’t last forever. This taught me that to follow God ways may not always make sense, but it is in His perfect will. You have to also be careful who you listen to and allow to speak into your life. I challenge you to seek God so much, that you recognize His voice and His will. That way you are not always running to a person to give you revelation or insight. Yes, you need people (ministers, elders, Pastors) but learn to seek His face when you can’t get anyone on the phone.
I have a genuine love for you all. I am excited for all that I see and for those of you are hesitant….press forward! Don’t miss your window of opportunity because of the wrestling in your spirit.